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‘Tis the season for paranoia.
in the workplaces is on rise, and it seems some people are in the
spirit of taking more than giving this season, says Earl
an attorney with Saul Ewing. "What’s surprising is how often the
workplace embezzlement occurs," he says. "I think most major
employers have experienced some instance of a crime every few years
and the issue becomes how to recover against the employee moneys that
have been stolen, and what the employer should do at the criminal
and civil stages."
"Crimes in the Workplace" is Bennett’s free seminar on
December 16, at 8 a.m. at the Saul Ewing office at 214 Carnegie
The seminar covers employer responsibilities and rights in cases of
embezzlement or theft, or where employees are convicted of crimes
or accused of violence towards a co-worker. Call 609-452-3133.
When employees misbehave, says Bennett, a company’s greatest weapon
is still the employee manual. "You need a good employee manual
that specifies that employee communication at his or her terminal
is not private property," he says, "and that all of the
is that of the employer so there’s no privacy interest that can be
asserted by the employee." An employee may claim that his or her
privacy was violated by an employer snooping through presumably
correspondences, but, says Bennett, "I don’t know any that have
been successful as of yet." The employee handbook should also
clarify that office lockers, desks, and other workspaces are the sole
property of the employer, and therefore, subject to inspection with
If good things come in small packages, then perhaps
the best things can’t be wrapped at all. Memories, for example.
Rather than giving tons of bric-a-brac this holiday, give people the
gift of a new experience — a chance to go to a movie, the opera,
or get a massage — says Carol Kivler,
consultant. "When you give the gift of experiences," she says,
"you give the gift of time for one’s self and I think many people
It’s also a gift for the gift-giver — a chance to strip away the
commercial clutter and financial burdens and enjoy companionship,
says Kivler, who offers "Stress Busters for the Holiday
on Friday, December 17, at 7:30 p.m. at the Cookie Cottage at 3697
Nottingham Way. Call 609-737-8157.
A human resources consultant for large and small organizations for
12 years, Kivler started her business — Kivler Communications
at 8 Hart Court in Titusville — teaching "Grammar for
and "Writing for Results." She has a BS in business from the
College of New Jersey, Class of 1972, and recently returned to Fordham
University for a master’s in human resources. She recently updated
her workplace lesson plan for the "New Economy" and now she
teaches adapting to change.
"Whether you’re in manufacturing, education, the private or public
sector," she says, "most people in the 21st century are going
to need new skill sets." The most important skills professionals
can have: the ability to be life-long learners, develop resiliency,
and move beyond one’s "comfort zone."
However, during the holidays, Kivler stresses comfort for the busy
professional, and the importance of taking care of oneself. Her advise
to the seasonally frazzled:
holiday memories," she says, "and those moments can center
and rejuvenate your spirit."
down on the travel and wear and tear on you," she says.
it’s impractical, set it aside. "As your life circumstances
she says, "so should your rituals. A woman with two small children
might want to decide on a more simple menu. This could definitely
cut down on stress."
out, movie, or theater tickets, instead of the same old presents.
"I have too much," she says. "We all have too much."
Some ideas: tickets to go to Longwood Garden for Sunday, or a gift
certificate for Sunday brunch or for a jazz club, tickets to go to
the theater, or a gift certificate at a good bake shop. "Things
they haven’t done — something new that so you stretch them out
of their comfort zone," she says. "But do it far enough ahead
that they can get it in on their calendar."
of experience. She still sets up an Easter egg hunt each year for
her grown children; the eggs are stuffed with tickets to concerts,
movies, or coupons for lunch with mom. Her husband started the
of experiential gift-giving 25 years ago. Most recently, he sent a
limousine to pick her up to take her to the Olive Garden, of all
"It was hysterical," she says.
Sometimes, the best gifts are from the heart, says Kivler. "Write
a promise to spend time with a loved one, or a promise to have dinner
every Thursday with your parents," she says. "It won’t add
to your financial burden, but it will add to your loved one’s
Move away from the punch bowl and stop photocopying
body parts on the Xerox machine. Millennium fever may be upon us,
but a conservative demeanor at this year’s holiday party is essential,
according to Executive Communications Group, Englewood-based
to Fortune 500 companies. Etiquette is more than a kindness you offer
your fellow friends and colleagues, according to a company press
it’s good business.
"Prepare for the holiday party as if it were a client meeting
or sales pitch," says a company spokesperson. Avoid shop talk,
and even if you are a homebody, try to be worldly just this once and
practice your most thought-provoking lines.
Other ways to be the life of the office party:
in case you are called upon.
business issues, like downsizing rumors.
Santa suit may not be appropriate.
your relationships by communicating through the way you listen.
at work or home.
picture, look people in the eyes.
the New Year.
Buying fruitcake for coworkers may be budget-wise, but
it won’t make you friends. Try some other creative, inexpensive gifts
instead. The Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Central New Jersey
(609-585-8220) has some reasonable ideas:
at yard sales or in your attic. For avid readers, fill with paperback
books, or for the coffee drinkers, fill with specialty coffee samples
and a couple of coffee mugs. Dollar stores and discount centers are
a good place to find tools, kitchen utensils, and baby items.
and start small. Look off the beaten path in import stores, resale
shops, and flea markets.
by buying white or lightly colored card stock and matching envelopes,
purchase different rubber stamps and colored ink pads, and decorate.
Package in sets of 10 to 20 and tie with a ribbon.
and other things from your garden. Bulbs, such as Amaryllis, in an
old piece of pottery are also nice.
in melted chocolate, cool, and wrap in cellophane and ribbon, with
a sprig of holly.
says Scott Dingwall, director of the CCCS. "A personalized
token can mean more to the recipient than an expensive, generic
Not surprisingly incidents of domestic violence do not
take a holiday during the festive holiday season. The state’s
of Community Affairs reports that each county operates a 24-hour
violence hotline and maintains shelters for women and their children
— at no cost.
In addition, a statewide toll-free hotline can refer domestic violence
victims to the appropriate assistance. It is 800-572-7233.
For victims of domestic violence who also are involved in immigration
issues, there is another program — Manavi — run by Union
but open to anyone in the state. Its number is 908-687-2662.
Central Jersey Women’s Network is asking people to
household items to the Providence House/Willingboro Shelter. The
is the only refuge for victims of domestic abuse in Burlington County.
They are in need of small appliances, dish towels, pot holders,
baskets, cooking utensils, silverware, mops, brooms, buckets, small
microwave ovens and more. Call 908-281-3119.
Your web server may be more important than you think.
To your external clients, over the Internet, it represents a portal.
But internally, Web-server based architecture may conduct such
applications as customer workflow processing — ordering,
"Performance Planning for Web Servers" at the Princeton
Computer Society meeting on Thursday, December 16, at 8 p.m. at the
Sarnoff Corporation. The meeting is free and refreshments will be
served. Students and their parents are welcome. Reservations are
for the pre-meeting 6 p.m. dinner with the speaker at the Rusty
Reeser is an 18-year veteran of AT&T and currently works in the
design and performance analysis department in the Advanced
Lab. His interests are in the areas of Internet server performance
modeling, distributed IP network scalability analysis, IP platform
performance and reliability engineering, and loss systems with
He will discuss end-to-end capacity and performance planning for
architectures and present a queuing model for Web servers in
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