#b#Asperger’s Provides A Different View#/b#
The coverage of the relocation of the Eden Institute (U.S. 1, December 14) was very good. I was pleasantly surprised by the coverage of Asperger’s Syndrome. I would disagree with the remark that it is viewed by those who have it as “a gift, not a curse.” I have the disability. If it is a gift, then how am I being rewarded in a way that the vast majority of people are not? Does this make my career path less difficult? Just the opposite. My friends who are physically disabled have a better chance of getting hired than I do. There are studies showing how much higher the unemployment rate is among all disabled people than the general population.
One characteristic of the people with Asperger’s is rigid hand movements. This leads to tasks being performed at a slower speed. Therefore, I can’t qualify for the jobs or I am ridiculed on the job by being called “Speedy.” Employers like my work ethic but they will fire me due to lack of speed. Therefore, I have been cursed.
Another characteristic is a fascination with maps. People are amazed by my knowledge of roads. But this doesn’t lead to employment unless I take delivery jobs using my vehicle, which doesn’t pay enough money to override the depreciation of the vehicle and to be able to support myself. Therefore, I have been cursed.
Maybe in my next life I will find people who value my knowledge. Until that time comes, being born with Asperger’s has been a curse; because I can’t do things that other people take for granted; even though I am not mentally retarded and I am not physically disabled.
Holly House, Princeton
Editor’s ntoe: The writer earned an MBA in market research in 1980 from Baruch College. Now 61, he was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at age 51.
#b#Historical Society Cites Its Supporters#/b#
On behalf of the Board of Trustees and the staff of the Historical Society of Princeton, I would like to thank everyone in the Princeton community who supported our two major 2011 fundraisers: the Princeton Antiques and Fine Art Show and the House Tour. Our mission is to preserve, collect, and interpret Princeton’s rich history through innovative exhibitions and programs — and we could not succeed without your help.
We would like to recognize the hard work of our Steering Committee, who planned and executed this year’s Antiques Show, led by Meghan Donaldson, Jody Erdman, Midge Fleming, Milly King, Chris Mario, Jennifer McGuirk, Dee Patberg, Dorothy Plohn, and Anita Trullinger. For the seventh year running, the Nierenberg Family and Princeton Airport graciously hosted the Show. We are grateful to our Show Sponsors including: Baxter Construction, Honda of Princeton, Leapfrog Advancement, Shepherd Foundation/Bovenizer Family, Henderson Sotheby’s International Realty, Knight Architects LLC, PNC Bank & PNC Wealth Management, Rago Arts and Auction Center, Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital, Wilmington Trust, Dumont & Watson Attorneys, Mercadien, Mills + Schnoering Architects, Princeton Orthopaedic Associates, Saul Ewing LLP, Viburnum, Antiques and Fine Art Magazine, Bucks Life Magazine, Design NJ Magazine, Packet Publications, Princeton Magazine, and the Magazine Antiques.
HSP also thanks all those who made the 2011 House Tour a success. First, the owners of the five homes that offered such a delightful exploration of Princeton’s dynamic domestic architecture. The tour would never happen without our House Tour Committee, our House Tour Chair David Schure, House Captains Colleen Hall, Nancy Henkel, Pete Peters, Shirley Satterfield, and Merlene Tucker, and over 80 docents. We also owe a very special thank you to Wanda Gunning.
Our lead sponsors, N. T. Callaway Real Estate and Glenmede, have our thanks, as do our other House Tour funders including: Viburnum, T. Jeffery Clarke Architect, Garden Makers Landscaping, HMR Architects, Infini-T Cafe & Spice Souk, Knight Architects, Lasley Brahaney, Van Note-Harvey Associates, Candice Walsh of N. T. Callaway, Woodwinds Associates, Julius H. Gross Painting, and our special sponsor for 2011, the Princeton Area Community Foundation, which honored us with a generous grant for the House Tour.
Finally, we would like to extend our heartfelt gratitude to everyone who participated by volunteering time, purchasing tickets, buying antiques, or supporting us in any way. We are blessed to be stewards of the history of such a vibrant, caring community!
Executive Director, Historical Society of Princeton
#b#A Home, Finally, For A Homeless Friend#/b#
I want to give everyone an update on our wonderful, Miss H (U.S. 1, September 28, 2011). I am pleased to let everyone know that after a bit of a difficult time we were able to get Miss H. into her hotel room on December 12.
She is settled in very comfortably. Some of your donation money went to buying her some microwave dishes to cook in and other items she needed from Wal-Mart. She also needed a new cart that she uses to put her important belongings in and to use to stabilize her when she walks distances. Ace Hardware in the Princeton Shopping Center gave $20 off just for her. My thanks goes to the owner of Ace Hardware.
Several different organizations have approached me trying to find permanent residency for her. I finally see what the problem is. These people show up out of nowhere and — I mean no disrespect — I know from the childhood that I have had that it takes a long time for me to build trust. These people, who I am sure have Miss H’s best interest at heart, need to understand you just can’t pop up out of the blue and expect her to trust you. I spend hours with her. I’ve earned her trust.
I think the system needs to do some revamping of its approach to schizophrenic and mentally ill people and realize time needs to be spent with them. How can anyone possibly expect a woman who has been pretty much all alone for 20 years to change at this point?
My goal is for her to be able to stay in this hotel for the rest of her time on this planet. There are plenty of corporations and people out there who can help this wonderful little woman have the comfort of bed without going through the insane bureaucracy that she would have to go through to have a place to live. That’s why I ask you to please continue to donate.
Please mail checks payable to Suzanne Newman at 1330 Route 206, Suite 103-110, Village Shopper, Skillman 08558. Newman is a Princeton-based massage therapist. Visit her website at www.gotcherback.com or call her for references at 609-683-1608. She will share a full accounting of how the money has been spent.