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Special Day for Daughters

by Phyllis B. Maguire

The Princeton Township mayor will again participate,

adopting a daughter for the day (her own two are grown) from the John

Witherspoon Middle School. Area companies have hired tour buses for

the day, packed treat bags, and lined up caterers for the breakfasts,

lunches, and ice cream socials they’ve planned. And auxiliary activities

have been spawned: earlier this week, the Central Jersey Women’s Network

hosted its second annual "Take Our Daughters to Network" dinner

for high school girls, with roundtable discussions about different

industries led by local women business leaders.

It is Take Our Daughters to Work Day, being celebrated this year on

Thursday, April 22. Established in 1993 by the Ms. Foundation, the

event was initially launched to help bolster the self-esteem of adolescent

girls by letting them experience first-hand — and free from boys

— the different career paths now open to them. Only New York companies

participated that first year, but in the six years since, Take Our

Daughters Day has gone national — and taken on a life of its own.

Thousands of companies across the country now host an estimated 15

million daughters.

"This has really become an American institution," says Kelly

Parisi, a publicist for the Ms. Foundation in New York. "This

is truly a publicly-owned, community-owned day. Different places adapt

the program to meet their needs."

Princeton is no exception. Some businesses keep to the event’s original

intent, restricting participation to girls. But more have opened their

programs to not only employees’ sons, but in many cases, their nieces,

nephews, and neighbors’ kids as well, turning a feminist project into

a rare chance to incorporate — even if for just one day —

children into workplaces from which they’re almost universally excluded.

In the process, the event has become a welcomed opportunity for adults

to act as mentors and an enthusiastic introduction for children into

the world of work.

Take Our Daughters Day was — and still is — intended as "an

intervention," according to the Ms. Foundation’s Parisi. It was

a response to the analysts’ findings, including those of Harvard psychologist

Carol Gilligan, who — in her 1982 book "In A Different Voice"

and in subsequent writings — detailed how adolescent girls lose

self-confidence and authenticity. Research showed that girls get slammed

with the message that their value is limited to their sexual appeal,

leading them to suspend their intellectual or political leadership

at a time when male contemporaries are discovering the world to be

their oyster.

"This is a very critical time for them," Parisi says, speaking

of girls ages 9 through 15 for whom the day was designed. "It

is very important for them to be told by adult men and women that

they are valued for their minds and that they must be engaged in their

own futures." She points out that boys also suffer a crisis of

confidence — but earlier in childhood, giving them a different

developmental timetable. While the Ms. Foundation has worked with

several organizations, including the Oakland Men’s Project in California,

to help design activities to provide guidance to boys, it believes

that Take Our Daughters Day should belong to girls alone.

"To throw them into a program for girls doesn’t help boys —

and really shortchanges the girls," says Parisi. The controversy

over whether to include boys has been present since the event’s inception,

and some parents who at first strongly supported an inclusive program

have since switched back to girls-only. "They saw firsthand what

happens to their daughters in the classroom when they get around boys,"

Parisi says.

Helping fund Ms. Foundation’s marketing of the event

are corporate allies, corporate supporters, corporate friends, and

additional funders — but above them all, only one corporate leader.

That is Ortho-McNeil Pharmaceuticals, the Raritan-based prescription

drug and contraceptive giant. Ortho-McNeil started out as a founding

sponsor, and while it won’t reveal what it pays for its corporate

leader slot, it does host an elaborate day for 400 of its own daughters.

The Ortho-McNeil program addresses more areas of the girls’ lives

than just their future professions, giving workshops on self-defense,

self-esteem, and health and wellness, as well as on product design

and sales, journalism, video production, and Web design.

In addition, women speakers from throughout the corporation and its

sister companies — Ortho Biotech and R. W. Johnson Pharmaceutical

Institute — speak to the girls about their specific areas of corporate

expertise.

It remains a girls’-only event for Princeton Township Mayor Phyllis

L. Marchand, who relishes the activity-jammed days she spends with

her adopted middle-school "daughters." She is not troubled

by the fact that, for the several years that she’s observed the program,

she has yet to adopt a student who’s a boy.

"We still have a long way to go, especially in the political arena,

for women in higher office," she points out. That sentiment is

shared by the Division on Women in the state Department of Community

Affairs, which, until this year, helped organize the day’s activities

for state employees and their daughters. While they never turned sons

away, according to division director Linda B. Bowker, they had no

problem with the day’s original intent.

"The day was developed so that girls could see role models in

non-traditional careers," Bowker says. "When you put boys

and girls together of that age, the boys tend to take over." The

day has been such a success over the years that it has grown beyond

the Division on Women’s organizational umbrella. Each department now

plans its own activities, giving parents more of a role hosting their

children and allowing young participants to learn more about specific

divisions.

Merrill Lynch, with almost 3,000 employees in the Princeton area,

wanted to both keep the focus on girls and extend the program to employees’

sons as well. It solved that dilemma by establishing a mirror program

for boys another day of the year, keeping the fourth Thursday every

April dedicated to girls’ role models and career opportunities. This

year’s theme is "What You Can Do," a program that includes

motivational speakers — athlete Donna Lopiano of Women’s Sports

and actress Irene Ng of the television program, "The Mystery Files

of Shelby Woo" — as well as a Young Entrepreneur’s Workshop

led by Jyoti Chopra of Merrill Lynch’s Education Services. The company

expects to host 300 daughters this year, up from 200 in years past.

"More and more people are interested in the day as an important

educational tool," says a Merrill Lynch spokesperson. It is so

educational, in fact, that many companies, instead of holding separate

events for boys and girls, throw open their corporate doors to what

has widely become Take Our Children To Work.

In smaller companies, Take Our Children Day remains very casual. At

Capital City Ford in Lawrenceville, for instance, with 56 employees,

the event was first commemorated last year when one of the salesmen

brought in his son. Helping his father take customers out for test

drives, the boy also learned about the detailing and service departments

and may be back again this year. Any employee who wants to bring in

a child is welcomed to do so, according to Joe Triboletti, one of

the owners.

At the other end of the spectrum is the very crowded day being organized

at the Princeton Plasma Physics Laboratory, the fusion research facility

on the James Forrestal Campus. A program has been devised for employees’

children to choose where they want to spend time; favorite areas of

interest are information services with graphics and digital photography,

and the computer-aided design and drafting division.

But those children who come will also get to participate in a concurrent

event: Pollution Awareness Day, with 700 students from nine different

area elementary and middle schools taking part in interactive displays

and poster contests. It is a way of opening up its Take Our Children

Day program to include the much larger community and educational mission

PPPL has adopted.

"We have not just an opportunity, but an obligation to be a good

neighbor," says Anthony R. DeMeo, head of PPPL’s information services.

"We are a unique facility and we have people who are very strong

in science." That mission has led PPPL to host the very popular

Science on Saturday series, as well as a program for the winners of

New Jersey’s science fairs. And while PPPL encourages more participation

by girls and women in science and wants to attract a diversified group

of scientists, the laboratory believes it should present science as

a career option for all children, rather than restrict its educational

activities to just girls, even for one day.

"Science education is very important," DeMeo says. "Children

may not choose a career in science simply because they were never

exposed to science."

Other companies have likewise adopted an inclusive educational mission

for Take Our Children Day. But instead of exposing children to the

world of science, they use the day to initiate children into the world

of the gainfully employed.

Allowing children to learn what’s involved in a business has personal

significance for 41-year old Tom Moonan of the Hibbert Group, the

direct marketing and fulfillment firm in Trenton. Along with his brother

Tim, who is 39, Moonan is Hibbert’s co-chairman, the third generation

to head up the business that was founded in the 1880s and taken over

by the Moonan family in the 1930s. When they were children, the two

brothers were brought to the plant on Saturdays — along with their

five other siblings — by their father, who was then company president.

Childhood explorations turned into jobs as teenagers in the shipping

rooms and warehouses. Their mother, Joan Moonan, now the company’s

chairman emeritus, stayed very involved.

"What we saw was the importance of commitment, how much time you

have to put in to keep the business going," says Moonan. The Trenton

Hibbert headquarters, with 500 employees, annually hosts between 60

and 85 sons and daughters of employees.

"We understood the intent, but we also felt it would be beneficial

for all children to know what their parents did," says Gwen Bolger,

Hibbert’s director of human resources. Her comment underscores one

of the factors contributing to the popularity and inclusiveness of

Take Our Children To Work Day: it is an opportunity to break down

the almost complete segregation of children from the physical space

and endeavors of their parents’ professional lives. In many cases,

boys have been included simply because they have no other opportunities

to get acquainted with that hugely important portion of their parents’

lives.

The children attending Hibbert’s event don’t stay with their parents;

instead, planned activities keep the children away from the company’s

extensive machinery — forklifts and cam jacks in the warehouses,

and letter inserters and collaters in the direct mail departments.

In the morning, buses take the children among Hibbert’s several buildings

where they tour different divisions and put together a mailing to

send their parents. In the afternoon, the middle school children learn

about marketing and more in-depth information on the company, while

all of the participants practice job-related skills like conducting

a job interview and writing job applications.

Job skills are part of the day’s agenda at Caliper, the personnel

assessment firm located on Mt. Lucas Road. The company opens the event

to not only sons and daughters, but to employees’ relatives and neighbors’

children as well, ages 5 through 16, bringing inclusiveness to the

event for adults as well as for children. For several years, Caliper

hosted only 20 children, although last year participation jumped to

almost 50. The fact that its owner, Herb Greenberg, is also part owner

of the new Trenton basketball franchise, the Shooting Stars, may be

contributing to the day’s appeal.

The children tour the company in the morning, following the process

that treats Caliper’s personnel assessment test, and then it’s lunch

outdoors under a lawn tent, a setting that has proved to be a boon

for younger children. In the afternoon, groups alternate between learning

about communications and the Internet from Patrick Sweeney, the public

relations director, and building houses together out of colored straws,

an exercise in team-building and cooperation.

About 50 children attend the day’s events at Covance,

the contract research organization that has 900 employees in the Carnegie

Center. The morning’s activities feature a scavenger hunt where children

must find their way around offices and equipment, having to bring

in a photocopy, for instance, and pick up a mock paycheck. Then the

children sit in on a video conference connecting four Covance offices

across the nation and in England, learning about the technology that

makes such a long-distance meeting possible.

After lunch, they break up into different workshops to learn how to

get a job at Covance, with tips on how to conduct a job interview,

write a resume, and attend a mock job fair. Then it’s time for a fashion

show of different business dress codes, before the day wraps up with

an ice cream social, complete with a survey for the children to fill

out, to let the organizers know what to bring back next year.

"If you just give them lectures about joining the workforce, you’re

going to lose them," says Alicia D. Plaag, Covance’s employee

services coordinator. The key to a successful day at the office for

children is interactivity, and a proven favorite is the disposable

camera given to each child to take pictures while they’re there, the

pictures becoming mementos to take back to their classrooms.

A few area companies have temporarily suspended their Take Our Children

event: the Gillespie Organization, the Princeton Pike advertising

agency, saw the age of its daughters shift too significantly toward

preschool. And Stark & Stark, the law firm at 993 Lenox Drive with

170 employees and 60 attorneys, has shifted into a much lower key

for the event. Take Our Daughters Day is now an "ad hoc" event,

according to Bonnie S. Brenner, director of human resources.

"Most of the daughter who came were younger and weren’t really

interested in what attorneys do," she says. "Most of their

mothers were attorneys, so it wasn’t new to them." And, Brenner

says, the event has fallen victim to another sign of the times: making

the workplace more child-friendly year-round. Since Stark & Stark

permits employees to bring their children to the office on snow days,

for instance, "they’re here all the time," Brenner says. "For

them, it’s just not that novel."

For ideas on organizing a Take Our Daughters (or Children)

Day, call the Ms. Foundation at 800-676-7780, or visit www.ms.foundation.org.


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