Bill Straughn, 49

Hugh Miller, 44

Lou Santin, 70

Bob Schnitzlein, 47

Charles Ganoe, 70+

Chris Emmi, 41

Sunder Narayanan, 45

Phil Macias, 45

Jeff Thomsen, 47

Jerry Fennelly, 45

David Fradin, 53

Corrections or additions?

This article by Jamie Saxon was prepared for the June 29,

2005 issue of U.S. 1 Newspaper. All rights reserved.

No Longer Gym Rats, Real Men Now Exfoliate

I think my nine-year-old son might be metrosexual. And that’s not

necessarily a bad thing. Men who are well-groomed, fit, and healthy

and know that seaweed takes the toxins out of your skin definitely

have a leg up on those poor, misinformed boy-men who think groomed

means wearing a button-down shirt only they forget it’s also supposed

to be clean, pressed — and buttoned. My Little Leaguer can catch a pop

fly and scoop newts and crawfish out of our stream with his bare hands

but he also uses mango body wash and knows that Capris are his mom’s

pant of choice after Memorial Day. I know his future wife will

appreciate these nuances in his personality.

At breakfast the other day he said apropos of nothing at all, “Mom did

you know there’s a new spa called the Male Room?” Really, honey,

what’s that? “It’s a spa just for men. It’s in Flemington.” And how do

you know this, sweetie? “I heard a commercial on WPST.” I then

informed him, remarkable coincidence that it was, that I was writing

an article on men who go to spas. With his usual aplomb, he said,

“Well, there you go.”

Thanks to Mini Me Metrosexual, I later phoned the new spa owner to get

the skinny on what’s up with men and exfoliation. After all, the New

York Times ran a story just last month on men who go to destination

spas for a healthy dose of organic vegetables, Feldenkrais, and loofah

salt scrubs and another on men who are incorporating spa treatments

into business trips. I had to know, could any such men actually live

around here? And if so, what did they do for a living and more

importantly, did they ever have a manicure and could they do the

triangle pose?

We found 11 such men, all over the age of 40, and some well over the

age of 40, who bared all (figuratively), and the findings are

surprising and impressive. There really are still men out there who

care about staying healthy and looking good, at 40, 50, 60, and 70.

Here’s how — and why — they do it.

“It’s all about men,” says Donna Booth, owner of the Male Room, which

opened last month in Flemington. After a 16-year hiatus from

hairdressing to raise four kids, Booth yearned to return to work but

she had no interest in the whims of female clients. “I enjoyed the

guys, talking to them. When I decided to get going again, I saw that

unisex shops were a dime a dozen. I wanted a place that would cater to

guys.”

She used her own money to transform a building at 35 Stangl Road, with

a 35-foot ceiling, into a space that reeks of masculinity. There’s a

custom-built bar with leather and cherry bar stools, where guys can

have peanuts and iced tea and watch ESPN on a 100-inch projection TV

while they wait to get a haircut — or a massage, a back wax (which

lasts about a month and a half), or facials with names like Straight,

the Energy Boost, the Revitalizer Touch of Youth, and Face Rescue

Express. Booth even does a back facial. “I do a hot stone pedicure

that guys love. We call it foot and hand detailing instead of

manicures and pedicures. We have a pedicure chair that’s heated,

reclines, and vibrates. When my husband sits in it, you’d think he was

a woman.”

Booth is smart and knows what men want. “Guys don’t like to be fussed

over too much.” Her clientele cross all professional borders, from

lawyers to construction workers and car salesmen. She plans to install

a pool table and arcade games in the loft. As for the 100-inch

projection TV, it’s normally tuned to ESPN, but, says Booth, “The guys

tease me; if things are slow, Lifetime is on.”

At Gentle Healing Wellness Spa on Cranbury’s South River Road,

therapist Shea (“We don’t use last names, for privacy reasons”) says

that 40 percent of their clientele are men. And privacy is so

important that she wouldn’t approach any of her clients — many of whom

are out in the public eye as professional and collegiate athletes,

Broadway dancers, and high-profile executives in advertising and

pharmaceuticals — to be interviewed for this article.

But she had plenty to say about what draws men to a spa experience.

“Younger men are supporting the trend to create a handsome package,

more of a fashion sense, the MTV thing. More mature men go to a spa to

maintain health and hygiene; they’re really leaning toward old school,

the barber shop, the professional lodge.”

Gentle Healing has recreated that atmosphere thanks to a unique

building in a unique location — a 150-year-old house full of nooks and

crannies, accessed by no fewer than seven major thoroughfares,

including the New Jersey Turnpike, Route 18, and Route 130. “It’s not

in a strip mall; you don’t have to walk through a hair salon to get

here. We’ve created an atmosphere with an old world, comfortable

approach,” says Shea. Owner Donda Sternberg, who herself has a strong

massage background, has established a massage school on the premises,

but plans to break ground on the property soon to build a new massage

school and will transform the school’s present building into a

separate men’s lounge with a hunt club atmosphere.

Shea says Gentle Healing’s old school approach is key. “Everything’s

customized. We focus strongly on massage and body care with classic

products like Caswell-Massey. A client will come in and consult with a

therapist. Then we might make him an aromatherapy steam, a gentleman’s

soak, like the old Jewish bath house, with pine and sage herbs that we

grow in our own garden. This is an old home, so we use the claw foot

tub, and we offer lager and peanuts instead of the traditional

Champagne, chocolate, and strawberries. We energize the water; it’s a

‘presented’ bath, it’s not fluffy.” For the men’s sports manicure and

pedicure, they use antibacterial and antifungal products, nothing

floral or fluffy. The slippers are basic brown.

Male clients can easily feel that they are the only one there. “We

have so many nooks and crannies and old parlors, we jokingly do that

Scooby Doo switch,” Shea says. “We have a dining room with a

fireplace, where we do private parties, a creaky staircase, and steam

‘cubbies.’” Some men get hooked after their wife or girlfriend lure

them in for Gentle Healing’s evening of romance, which features a

steam bath, massage for two, and wine and dinner.

Shea says there is a marked difference between male and female

clients. “Men, once they find a place they’re comfortable in, are much

more committed to get back to that place, where women will try

everywhere. Men are loyal, usually much more grateful, and financially

rewarding. Men like consistency, conversation, and education. You need

to make a man feel comfortable, talk to him about his health, not how

his kids are doing. If I’m doing a massage, I ask the man, are you

comfortable with the way your skin is? Do you swim? Do you work out?

If you work out on benches, there are simple things you can do to keep

your skin healthy, like a salt and mud treatment. Often a simple

massage leads to more treatments, like a scalp massage, dry brushing

the skin, warm oil. Once they get a salt exfoliation, they might try a

customized mud wrap.”

Shea also says attention to little details matters. For example, a man

sitting in a robe getting a pedicure “is in a vulnerable position. We

are conscious of how his robe is draped.”

Surrounded by the warehouses and extended-stay hotels of Exit 8A,

Gentle Healing draws transient truckers, CEOs making day trips from

New York or Philadelphia to visit their warehouses, and executives

from Merck, Shiseido, and Johnson & Johnson, many of whom take

advantage of spa membership, which gives them 10 percent off services

and retail products.

Sternberg is an aggressive marketer, giving presentations on

everything from feng shui to homeopathic care to companies and sports

teams. “We do business meetings with a 30-minute massage,” says Shea.

“Men may not have as many different services as women but they have

more services within a shorter period of time. They tell their

friends, and women don’t. It isn’t about sexuality. It’s about health

and maintenance. The younger generation is about that visual thing, a

look they have to compete with, they’re on the beach trying to portray

an image. But with older men, businessmen, let’s face it, you’re not

going to have someone sign a million-dollar contract with yucky hands.

You’d shine your shoes. Why not take care of your hands?”

Says Shea: “We love men. They can generate a whole family to come,

where a woman usually just takes care of herself. Men will reciprocate

and give gift certificates to friends and family. It’s a stronger

base. In most houses, the man’s income is usually the highest. If you

can get him to understand the benefits of the spa, you’re in.”

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Bill Straughn, 49

A business analyst in the IT division of American Re Corporation on

College Road, Straughn has worked out regularly for the last 10 years,

and belongs to Momentum Fitness and New York Sports Club, where he

concentrates on weights and cardio work such as the bike. A native of

Barbados, where his parents and identical twin still live, Straughn

played soccer and basketball as a child and thanks his parents for

instilling in him the tenets of a healthy lifestyle, including a diet

high in rice, fish, chicken, vegetables, and fruit. “My father is 78

and goes to the beach to swim every day and is very fit. So is my mom

and she’s 79. My grandmother died in her 90s.” He takes a multivitamin

daily, drinks green tea instead of coffee, and eats a low-cholesterol,

high-protein diet that includes brown rice and coldwater fish like

salmon.

But what really drives Straughn’s youthful streak is yoga. He says he

always knew yoga was “a good thing,” but it wasn’t until he struck up

a conversation with a colleague, Julie Parrella, an underwriting

analyst and a yoga instructor at Princeton Center for Yoga and Health

in Skillman, that he felt the urge to try it himself. His first class

was power yoga, a challenging workout that’s often done in a heated

studio. “It made me realize I wasn’t as strong as I thought I was,

that even though I may lift and do other power exercises, there were

muscle groups and areas of my body that were not being touched and

were weak. There was something missing in my overall fitness regimen.”

He now goes to power yoga once a week and is aiming to fit two classes

a week into an already busy schedule that includes coaching kids

basketball, working with the youth group and singing in the choir at

Barnabas Episcopal Church in Monmouth Junction, and volunteering for

homeless shelters.

While yoga gives Straughn a great workout, he says it’s the breath

work that compels him most. “Yoga emphasizes the power and quality of

the breath. I realized it is the most important aspect of life.” He

says he has noticed improved sleep, flexibility, physical and mental

balance, and concentration at work. “Yoga is also a real boost to your

psyche. It also relieves the tightness that lifting does to your

muscles. Good stretching and good flexibility develops from a good

yoga practice.”

Straughn notes the men in his class range in age from 20s to 50s, all

of whom are strong and flexible. He says everyone in the class focuses

on their own individual goals. “And boy do you sweat.”

But yoga also has a mental aspect that is integral to the practice, a

less tangible but deeply rewarding element that every man I

interviewed who practices yoga commented on. “There’s a very high

spirituality; I’m still only a rookie,” says Straughn. “There’s a

purity about the practice that you must embrace. If you think it’s

hoky or kooky, you won’t get it. But yoga has been going on since long

before you were born. You can receive it.”

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Hugh Miller, 44

Miller is CEO of Hollyrock/Miller, the Forrestal Village-based

advertising and PR firm named, you guessed it, after the Flintstones,

who referred to Hollywood as Hollyrock. His 12-person company services

clients in New Jersey and New York, but also as far-flung as Florida,

California, and Italy. Spa Therapia on Route 206 South is a client,

but Miller says he had been going there for spa services long before

they became a client.

“I go there for three reasons. The first is stress management and

pampering, and I’m not embarrassed to say it. I go for massage three

to four times a month; I mix up a hot stone massage with a basic

massage. I play a lot of golf, and massage gives great pain relief for

your back.”

OK, and then there’s the ear thing. “Men in their 40s, well, they can

have hair growing out of their ears, so I get that waxed. My friends

refer to me as a metrosexual. But I just say to them, ‘I don’t cut my

own lawn, either, at home; I pay someone, they do a better job, and I

don’t waste my time.’” He gets a wax every two to three months.

The third reason? “I’ve always had some type of dermatitis on my face.

People just think I’ve been out in the sun.” A therapist at Spa

Therapia suggested a facial. “‘We can take care of that,’ she said. I

figured I’d give it a try. On the one hand it’s very relaxing but it’s

a little awkward with the green gook. But it works. I’ve done it

twice. I think I’m going to try a manicure or a pedicure next.” When

Miller worked for Grey Advertising in New York 10 years ago, he says

he had a manicure occasionally.

“Part of going to the spa is to turn the clock back,” says Miller, who

also plays golf, often with clients, twice a week at Cherry Valley

Country Club in Skillman. “It feels good when people tell you you look

younger.” He also works out three mornings a week at 6 a.m. at

Princeton Fitness and Wellness Center, including once a week with

personal trainer Wynn Headley. When he noticed, after his 40th

birthday, that he had put on a few extra pounds, he switched to eating

five small meals a day and now swears by it. He brings yogurt, fruit,

and carrots to work. “I get cranky if I miss a meal. At a business

lunch I’ll have a salad; for dinner, a small portion of fish.” Whereas

before he says he felt lethargic, “now I’m energized.”

He has no qualms about telling other men about his spa regime, either.

“I always talk up the spa on the golf course. I’m always talking to

men about this stuff.”

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Lou Santin, 70

Santin, president and co-owner of Ricasoli & Santin Contracting in

Mercerville, has had nothing to drink but water for the last 15 years

and hasn’t had a drink-drink in 28. After developing gout at age 30,

Santin was put on a doctor’s diet. “You could die from this diet,” he

says. He stumbled through the next 20 years, suffering five to six

gout attacks a year, usually brought on by alcohol. When his wife, who

is allergic to preservatives, developed migraines 25 years ago, they

went totally organic and vegetarian.

Since then, says Santin, “She’s never had a migraine, and I’ve never

had a gout attack. I still look at a steak and it lasts a second and

then it goes away. Vegetarian doesn’t have to be tasteless.” They just

started eating fish and “clean meat,” which means organically-raised

chicken , and eggs from the Amish farm market in Flemington. “We’ve

already poisoned the earth; you can’t put poisons into your body.”

You’d never know Santin, the picture of health, was laid up for 13

weeks in his 30s with a virus that caused an enlarged heart or that he

had a cancerous tumor in his liver removed in 1995. Or that in 2000 he

had a brain tumor. “When the doc told me, I said, ‘Let’s get it out, I

don’t want no foreign thing in my body.’ He operated the next day.”

Santin moved to Ringoes 26 years ago where he built a house, with one

room designated as a home gym, right in the middle of 11 acres; two

years ago, he remodeled the whole house himself, putting in time after

work each day.

In addition to his diet, Santin gets a one-hour weekly massage at Full

Circle Family Massage and Healing Center on Princeton- Hightstown

Road. “It gets the lymphatic fluids moving, which is what removes the

toxins from your body, excretes the sweat.” Does anyone tease him

about going for massages? “I ain’t gonna take no crap from nobody,”

says Santin. “I don’t broadcast it to the world.” More importantly,

Santin says he has no stress.

Massage, diet, and exercise — as well as chiropractic — are part of a

whole package, says Santin, who has two grown children in their 40s

and four grandchildren. You can’t do one without the other. Faith is

another element. I asked him if he was mad at God for his tumors,

gout, and heart virus. “People get mad at God when bad things happen

but they don’t get glad with God when good things happen. And good

things happen every day. I do give praise to God. He designed the body

to heal itself. I read a lot of inspirational books. I read the Bible

every morning. I read Psalm 91, ‘What the Lord Promises You.’”

Santin’s also been happily married for 47 years. He looks forward to a

long life. His own father, who rode his bike every day and was a

moderate eater, died at 92. “I believe it gave him quality of life,”

says Santin. “My wife and I took him out to dinner every Friday. One

Friday, he had taken a bike ride that morning. When we went to pick

him up, he was sitting in his chair with his hat and coat on, ready to

go. He died just like that.”

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Bob Schnitzlein, 47

When I call Schnitzlein for a phone interview on Tuesday, June 21, at

8:30 p.m., he says, “Can you call me back in 10 minutes? The runaway

bride is gonna tell us why she ran away; she’s being interviewed by

Katie Couric!” I ask in as neutral a voice as possible, “Are you

kidding?” He says, “No, I’m not kidding.”

We reconnect at 9 p.m., and Schnitzlein says that everyone will be

talking about the runaway bride the next day so he wanted to know the

scoop. I already like this guy. He’s got his priorities straight.

I talked to plenty of men who have stress in their jobs for this

article, but Schnitzlein, a psychiatrist, has a professional plate

full of responsibilities guaranteed to grey your hair and raise your

blood pressure. In addition to logging in 20 to 35 clinical hours a

week in his solo private practice in Kendall Park, Schnitzlein

consults with approximately 50 to 60 patients at two developmental

disability residences for adults in South Plainfield and Somerville,

and he sees about 160 inmates — including sexual predators, fire

starters and firemen (“They sometimes go hand in hand,” says

Schnitzlein), murderers, and several chronic psychiatric patients who

are now in the state prison system.

What is his antidote for near-total immersion into the mental health

problems of a rather extraordinary cross-section of the population? “I

have to balance it with an active athletic lifestyle,” says

Schnitzlein. “That’s how I relieve my stress. I work hard and I play

hard. I just got back from playing three sets of tennis.” He plays at

least two round robins and participates in at least one team

tournament a week; swears by the 6 a.m. spinning classes at New York

Sports Club in Kendall Park, where he lives; rollerblades and bikes in

good weather; and snowboards in winter at high-end locales including

Innsbruck, Austria, Mount Tremblant in Canada; Heavenly in Nevada, and

Copper and Breckinridge in Colorado.

Schnitzlein says he feels like he is 18 years old. Part of that no

doubt comes from maintaining a healthy physique but he also has a

dirty little secret: he colors his hair. Well, to be accurate, he

blends. Four years ago, Schnitzlein met Tim Bricker, owner of b+b

Color Studio on State Road (Route 206), on the tennis courts at the

Doral Forrestal tennis club, Winning Touch Tennis. “I needed a

haircut,” says Schnitzlein, who has brown wavy hair that he wears a

little bit long. “It was graying at the temples. That’s a good thing,

in one respect, in my line of work; you look like you’re older and

have more wisdom. But when I went to Tim he asked, ‘Do you want to try

some blending?’ I said, ‘Is it gonna make me look good?’ He said,

‘Sure, it’ll make you look fabulous.’” Now Schnitzlein’s hooked,

popping in to b+b every five weeks for a cut and touch-up.

Coming off the heels of a difficult divorce, Schnitzlein says that now

he is “getting a do-over in life.” In addition to staying in good

shape, Schnitzlein is enjoying new adventures (he took a Caribbean

cruise last fall) and a new relationship, practices meditation, and

maintains a positive attitude. “I want to try to live the most I can

every day. I think positively. I believe everybody I meet has

something to teach me. So many things happen for a reason. You just

have to have faith that what’s happening is exactly where you should

be.”

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Charles Ganoe, 70+

Ganoe is definitely a man who knows the power of seaweed. After

working as a banker for many years in Philadelphia and then for a

large consulting firm outside of Philadelphia, he set up his own

company, Ganoe Associates, 10 years ago, in Research Park. He prepares

sales and information materials for medium and smaller-sized banks, as

well as newsletters for associations.

“Six or eight years ago, I found that in the winter I got itchy skin.

Somebody suggested Eastern European skin treatments.” At the time

Ganoe was doing work for a couple of banks and American Express in New

York, so he sought out spas in the city that specialized in skin care.

Now he goes once a month to Amber Spa in Pennington for a full body

seaweed wrap. “They put a seaweed paste on, then wrap you in a heated

blanket. It opens your pores, penetrates the skin, and removes some of

the toxins. It moisturizes your skin, and it’s long-lasting. Some

people go to spas for beauty treatments; I go for therapeutic

treatments.”

No ordinary septuagenarian, Ganoe, who is married with two grown

children and two grandchildren, has run the New York marathon nine

times and races regularly in Central Park. He has run 14 marathons

since 1990. Though he had to quit running marathons two and a half

years ago, due to the stress on his feet, he still runs 5Ks and runs

during the week at 6:30 a.m. He also takes spinning classes at

Momentum gym, where he gets an occasional massage if he strains a

muscle. “My cardiovascular system is in better shape than my feet,”

Ganoe says, adding that people often comment on how young he looks.

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Chris Emmi, 41

Emmi and his wife, Donna Marie, have their own law practice, Emmi and

Emmi, in Hillsborough, specializing in worker’s compensation defense

for insurance carriers. “There’s a reason why you don’t see movies

about worker’s compensation lawyers. But I used to be a fraud

investigator. That was a little more exciting.”

How do you get a guy who started weight training at age 13 and played

football in high school to take a yoga class? After complaining about

a herniated disc, which had been giving him problems since his

mid-30s, Emmi says his wife, who is also an instructor at Princeton

Center for Yoga and Health, convinced him to try yoga. “In January,

2004, I finally gave in because PCYH was giving a yoga class for

beginners. I thought it was gonna be a bunch of spacey people tying to

float around the room but it was really just stretching. My back felt

a bit better after the first class. Now almost two years later, I’ve

really not had any major problems with my back.”

Emmi works out at Maximum Fitness in Hillsborough two to three nights

a week, and he and his wife go mountain biking. But when it came to

curing the residual pain and discomfort left over from a dislocated

shoulder dating from his boxing days at the University of Delaware,

Emmi says again yoga did the trick. “I couldn’t lift a shovelful of

snow before, had problems with bursitis, and it hurt in cold weather.

Since I’ve done yoga, that shoulder doesn’t bother me.”

Emmi takes a vinyasa, or flow, class twice a week as well as hot yoga,

where they crank up the temperature over 100 degrees. “It really

loosens you up,” Emmi says. “I tend to be type A, sitting on the edge

of my seat, twitchy. The breathing techniques help calm you down. When

I’m in court doing a trial and I have to cross-examine someone, which

is stressful, I just breathe and it gets me back in my head. I find it

clears my thinking process so I can ask the questions I want to ask.”

Another health trick Emmi has discovered is eating a decent-sized

breakfast and lunch and a very small dinner, such as a shake made with

soy milk and a banana, or a small salad. “That’ll hold me until the

next day.” But he’s certainly not a fanatic. “I like wine, red meat,

and I have maybe a cigar a week.”

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Sunder Narayanan, 45

Narayanan commutes from his home in Lawrenceville as a professor of

marketing at New York University, where he teaches an average of six

to eight courses a year, including the summer. He says it’s a grueling

commute made less grueling by virtue of the fact that he has to go

into the city only on the days he teaches.

In his native India, running and working out with weights made up his

exercise regime until one day, when he was in his mid-20s, he says, “I

just wanted a change. I went to a bookstore and bought a book on yoga

and just taught myself.” When he came to the United States 19 years

ago to pursue studies at the University of Illinois at

Urbana-Champaign, he began taking yoga classes. He later earned a

doctorate from Columbia.

Narayanan, who is single, now averages three classes a week. “It’s

like working out but mentally I feel great,” he says. “It calms your

mind down, the way I do it; I do a gentle kind of yoga.” He also tries

to walk about 15 miles a week, and has been a vegetarian his whole

life. “All of that makes a difference.”

If his mother is any indication, Narayanan has found the right

combination of diet and exercise to pursue a life filled with energy

and activity. His mother went out and earned a Ph.D. in education in

her 60s and now lives in Princeton and works at Accenture.

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Phil Macias, 45

Macias rides a serious man-toy — a BMW R1150R motorcycle, a recent

upgrade from a BMW F650CS — to his job as a senior systems engineer

contractor at Geophysical Fluid Dynamics Lab at the Forrestal campus.

He can also do a headstand.

How does he reconcile the obvious dichotomy of motorcycles and yoga?

There’s no dichotomy, says Macias. “There’s a really strong connection

between the two. If you think about all the good things about yoga —

letting go, being very present — it’s just like being on the bike.

When you’re on the bike, you have to be very present, you can’t be

judgmental. If someone cuts you off you have to let them go. Yoga is

an analogy of life, and motorcycling is an analogy to yoga.” Macias

says he used to be strictly an off-road biker but once he started yoga

and meditation, “the fear started disappearing” and now he has no

qualms about roads like Route 1.

Macias, who is single and lives in Canal Pointe in West Windsor, had

been an avid gymgoer, doing step, spinning, and weights, but fell off

the wagon when he hit a real low three years ago, losing two jobs and

ending a long-term relationship all in the same time period. “I had

kind of lost my way,” he says. When Macias got his current job, which

he loves, things started to turn around but then he developed what is

called an essential tremor. “They don’t know what causes it, it’s mild

but it scared me. It felt like I was really jacked on caffeine.”

Macias takes medication but he says meditation and yoga are what

really kicked off his wellness regime.

He began taking classes at PCYH taught by his best friend, Julie

Parrella. “I wasn’t quite sure what I was looking for. But yoga is

about being present, not harming yourself, being nonjudgmental,

accepting who you are and what you are. That allowed me to accept this

tremor, and I came out of my emotional thing. My yoga became very

important to me not for the physical aspect; I do it for my soul.” He

also became hooked on Pilates and now teaches twice a week at New York

Sports Club Princeton North.

About nine months ago he started getting a one and a half hour massage

once a month with Gina McLaughlin at Kingston Wellness Associates,

when he feels something’s not quite right with his body. He admits a

couple of guys rib him at work about the massages but Macias comes

right back by asking them, “Doesn’t it feel good when someone gives

you a neck rub? It’s a chance to disconnect and relax and it feels

totally good. It’s an hour that you don’t have to do anything.” He

also does acupuncture and chiropractic. “People look at you funny but

you know that it’s actually a really good thing to get mobility to the

spine.”

The contents of Macias’ desk drawer reveals his take on healthy

eating. “I have a drawerful of Shredded Wheat, Kashi Go Lean Crunch,

almonds, an apple, and an assortment of herbal teas. I eat fruit salad

or Japanese from Teriyaki Boy for lunch. I don’t eat red meat.”

And women, listen up. This guy has no problem revealing his softer

side. “I take baths. I take a nice bath three times a week, do a salt

scrub, turn off the lights and have candles and incense.” He swears by

Origins products, including Ginger Body Smoother, Swept Clean smoother

with charcoal, Let’s Circulate Salt Rub Soap, Have a Nice Day

supercharged moisture lotion, and Soothing Bath Salts. Also in his

medicine cabinet are Neutrogena’s facial peel and Dr. Hauschka’s

cleansing cream and normalizing day oil. “I used to use products all

the time but fell out of it for a few years. I am so glad I

rediscovered using them.”

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Jeff Thomsen, 47

‘I’m 47 but I feel like I’m 27,” says Thomsen, president of 20/20

Multimedia, a video production company he formed 23 years ago, which

is based in Princeton Forrestal Village and specializes in commercial,

music videos, and corporate and industrial videos. He has played golf

since age 11, and now plays four times a week, sometimes taking in 36

holes a day. He also coaches his 13-year-old son’s travel basketball

team in Montgomery and takes several golf trips a year.

Thomsen says he has probably been to five or six different spas and

started getting massages 10 years ago. At one spa he used a gift

certificate someone had given him for a facial and a manicure. That

was two months ago. Was it his first? “No, I had a manicure when I got

married in 1988.”

Thomsen gets deep tissue massages regularly at Spa Therapia. “Besides

releasing muscle tension, the stress relief is just incredible. It’s

all about having the right massage atmosphere. It’s like walking out

of a tunnel into a very relaxing atmosphere. I lose some stress just

walking through the door in anticipation.”

Thomsen says massage is essential to getting through a stressful work

day. “Once I had a client come in for an editing session and things

weren’t running too smoothly. We had to book an extra editing day the

next day. I ended up booking a massage for that night after the extra

day.”

Thanks to playing a lot of golf, drinking more water, eating more

fruit and smaller portions of everything, and cutting back on his

beloved tiramisu, Thomsen has reached his goal of losing 15 pounds in

three months. Oh, yes, and there is one other little lifestyle element

that Thomsen says contributes to his stress management. “I go away

quite often. We have a house in St. Thomas.”

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Jerry Fennelly, 45

Fennelly, owner of NAI Fennelly, a major player in commercial real

estate, could easily be a poster child for the stressful workaholic.

Instead, he’s an exercise nut, grabbing at every golden ring on the

carousel of life. In a phone interview, he describes his agenda of the

previous day. “5:30 a.m., bike riding for 45 minutes, had a meeting

for a 5K race I’m organizing at 8 a.m. Then lots of meetings, showing

space, meeting with people though the day. Got a call at 4 p.m. to go

to a 20-year anniversary party at 5:30 in East Brunswick, then at 9

p.m. went to visit my mother in the hospital, then from 10:30 p.m. to

12:30 I drove through a tour of properties I was going to show the

next day. Got home about 1:30 a.m. and got up this morning at 6:30.”

Fennelly, who ran track and was on the fencing team at St. Peter’s,

now aims for five or six workouts a week. He bikes, runs, and hits the

pool at Robert Wood Johnson Hamilton Fitness Center and Princeton

Fitness and Wellness for 30 to 40 laps. “When you work out you have

more strength to go through the day. If you think about it, I

sometimes walk five miles a day, showing buildings, going up and down

stairs, in the hot or cold. I’m always on, just like a machine, then

it’s a problem to shut off. You’re always producing, you’re just a

constant movement of forward energy.”

About 20 years ago Fennelly discovered running, and competes in about

40 races a year, mostly 5 and 10Ks. “What happens is when you work a

lot, you’ve got this Eveready battery that keeps going. Racing

actually gets me tired, slows me down a little bit.”

Training constantly at a competitive level can be a strain on your

muscles and Fennelly says he lives in pain every day. For nine years

Darby Line, owner of Full Circle Family Massage and Healing Center,

has been coming to his home once a month to give him a massage. His

wife and two kids also get one. “We’ve been involved in massage

forever. If you’re training, your body needs to have the work done to

take the lactic acid out.”

Fennelly is also a spa fanatic, booking treatments into every

vacation, which he takes twice a year. Two years ago he took a client

and his wife to the ultra-chic Canyon Ranch Spa in Lenox,

Massachusetts. “First of all they don’t let you eat anything that’s

bad. I got a stress test, massage, facial, yoga. I got a pedicure. The

real pain came at the end: the bill was $4,000 for four days.”

But Fennelly is hooked. Two weeks ago, he and his wife were in Boulder

at the brand new St. Julien Hotel, which boasts a 10,000 square foot

spa. When he skis in Utah, he always books two to three massages.

“Sometimes I throw a facial in. You’re trying to rejuvenate.” He likes

the spa at the Hyatt in Beaver Creek, where he often indulges in a

double session with a personal trainer.

Any vices? “I eat too much,” Fennelly admits. “We’d have to live like

rabbits to be healthy. It’s hard to do. When you’re brought up on

pizza it’s hard to convert. Conversion comes with great pain. I had

salmon for lunch today, though.”

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David Fradin, 53

What happens when an overweight guy with a high-stress job and medical

issues, who hasn’t worked out in 20 years, takes a yoga class? An

independent computer systems consultant, Fradin services clients

around the country, like a Midwestern agricultural corporation that is

losing hundreds of thousands of dollars a month because its factory

computers aren’t working efficiently. His job has high stress and high

pressure stamped all over it. Traveling about 20 days a month only

adds to the stress.

“Several years ago I developed high blood pressure and arthritis,”

says Fradin, who lives in Plainfield and has two grown children in

their 20s. He went on medication for both and also started getting

debilitating sciatica attacks. “I felt I was on a downward spiral.” He

says a number of people suggested yoga, and he finally succumbed,

taking a hatha yoga class with Leslie Hadley at Princeton Center for

Yoga and Health. “It took me about a week to recover from that class,”

he says. “I had not worked out in more than 20 years.”

He gradually worked up to three classes a week, while cutting way back

on desserts and snacking, losing 15 pounds in the process. His blood

pressure returned to normal, his arthritis improved, he went off of

his medication for both, and the sciatica cleared up completely.

“I feel better than I have in 10 or 15 years,” he says, “so good that

I became certified to teach yoga in 2003.” He says he has attracted

more men into his classes. How? “It’s all about three things with men

— high blood pressure, stress management, and sexuality. It’s all

about blood flow. It’s all about relaxing — better blood flow and

being more relaxed. Think about it. Fifty percent of your sexual

problems will go away.

“Yoga is thousands of years old and yet it lends itself to adapting to

our time so well, it almost seems it was invented for the present.

Work and family stresses — yoga can be so helpful in managing that.

Yet men have traditionally stayed away. Like me they sort of stumble

into it, and if they stay with it, they start noticing real

substantial improvement in their health.”

Here’s the real kicker. “For guys yoga is one of the last great

frontiers for meeting women. Most classes have a 1 to 8 ratio of men

to women. You don’t have to go to a bar and you can get healthy.”


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