A lot of people talk about work-life balance. The problem with this phrase is that it implies that work is not part of life. Or that each aspect is something you can measure tangibly.
According to psychiatrist and business consultant Dr. Peter Crist, nothing could be further from the truth. “Work is a major part of our lives. So is love. The focus, then, should really be on integrating our work lives with our love lives. It’s a wellness issue,” he adds. “I truly believe that the basis of health in general is satisfaction in both realms.”
Satisfaction in our work or love relationships isn’t spoken of much. And there’s a difference between satisfaction and just getting by. “People may ask, ‘Do you like what you do?’” Dr. Crist says. “And a lot of people are okay with their jobs. But that’s very different from being deeply satisfied.”
On Saturday, February 6, Dr. Crist will host “Balancing Work & Love,” a free workshop on how to better integrate work and love relationships. His presentation will offer a unique understanding of how work and love can support and enhance, rather than conflict, with each other.
In an interactive open discussion format, Dr. Crist will talk with the audience about their own situations and look at what works and what gets in the way of having a healthy, satisfying work life that is integrated with an equally fulfilling love and family life.
The event, the fourth in a series on work and life-related questions sponsored by the American College of Orgonomy, will run from 4 to 6 p.m. at the Paul Robeson Center for the Arts in Princeton. For information or to register, visit www.orgonomy.org/events.
Satisfaction, Dr. Crist says, is not limited to one aspect of our lives. Yet so often people use one part of life to mask the problems they’re having in another. They might, for example, bury themselves in work, and enjoy doing so, but at the expense of their personal, love, and sex lives.
For example, Dr. Crist mentioned a couple he works with who run a company. “They work together so well on the business that they’ve let it take over their time at home so that their love life has gone by the wayside.” By helping them see how their work allowed them to avoid personal problems, they’re facing how to have a better home life. “If they can overcome their anxieties at home, it will actually improve their business lives.”
Another typical problem in this arena is women with full-time jobs whose husbands expect them to also take care of the household chores and children. Dr. Crist notes: “I encourage husbands and wives to examine what gives them each the most satisfaction at home and at work and to see how they can make changes that support what they both want.
Dr. Crist looks forward to giving people a different perspective on how to face anxieties in the workplace and in their personal and love lives so that they can become more fulfilled in both worlds.